The Dark Night of the Soul (DNOTS) doesn’t come when there is just one little thing going wrong in your life. The darkness that surrounds you when you need to change your life is dark. You feel horrible. Your partner has left you. Your kids despise you. You get fired, and your savings are nowhere to be found.
Maybe you got into an accident that changes everything. Maybe you lost somebody close to you. Maybe your house burnt down. Maybe you got cheated on. Maybe you are the cheater.
Whatever it is that made you start the Dark Night is awful. You’ve never felt more lost and alone in your life while lying there all by yourself, thinking that nobody really understands what you’re going through.
Sometimes it’s not even your fault. Horrible things happen to good people too. But the light always reveals itself in the darkest moments. You just have to make a choice to see it.
Nothing happens just to punish you
This statement made my life 100% easier to live with.
Everything happens for a reason.
Whatever happens to me, regardless of it being my own fault or not, I know it is going to create a butterfly effect that is the best for me in the long run.
Every single thing that happened for me made me grow in ways I couldn’t have imagined when it was happening. I know it’s hard to believe when you’re going through it, but this is the true secret to freeing yourself from the shackles of your mind. The Universe has your back; trust in it.
People often have to hit rock bottom when they really need to change their lives around. After all, when everything is still going ‘fine’, why would you change it?
But the problem is that we often don’t listen. We get so comfortable in our discomfort that it becomes normal. Until one day it does not.
And that’s when everything goes to shit.