Call me naive, but I don’t just think that soulmates are real. I know they are. In fact, I already met a few in my lifetime.
I believe several people can be our soulmates, and they are not only romantic ones. They all come at different times in our lives to help us evolve. And when you are meant to meet each other, nothing stops that from happening.
Soulmates are not just lovely fantasies, though; they often reflect something hidden deep inside of you. According to Carl Jung, soulmates are mirrors of your subconsciousness and often carry archetypal energy.
Soulmates have a purpose
I think everybody we meet who causes us to deeply transform is pre-destined. We don’t just cross their paths by accident; there is a higher reason behind it. These souls come to change you, whether through deep pain or through deep love.
Some soul connections carry karma from the past. If that is the case, the relationship will not be easy. The goal is to forgive the karma and move on in gratitude. A lot of triggers will come to the surface here, and your only job is to go inward to heal yourself.
Other souls come to show you what true love feels like. This is like coming home; you feel truly seen and appreciated by someone. It’s like you finally get rewarded for what you’ve always known to be true: soulmates are real.
How to recognize soulmate connections?
In a certain sense, everybody in your life makes you grow. But with soulmates, this growth is so transformational that it’s hard to think it was all a coincidence. And it wasn’t.
Here are 9 signs of a soulmate:
1. You feel the recognition immediately
There is a reason why, with some people, you feel this inner sense of recognition, like you have met them before. You look into their eyes, and something sparks.
This happened to me with a guy whom I saw at the intro party of my new university when I was 20 years old. I was standing in front of the DJ booth when I suddenly felt the urge to turn around and look backwards. He stood there, quite far away, and I felt a jolt of recognition.
I had to pinch my eyes to really look at him, wondering where I’d met him before. However, I had never seen him, and he turned out to be a hard lesson in my life.
Some would say this is because of a shared trauma, and maybe it is. But if that is the case, these people show up to heal that trauma.
2. Inner shadow activation
According to Jung, a soulmate reflects your shadow back at you. Whatever you love or hate about them is also in you. Here comes the Anima/Animus archetype at play: you are projecting your suppressed inner masculine or feminine onto them.
That is why it feels like coming home, you suddenly come face to face with the part that you tried to hide for so long. The shadow longs to be seen, and if you are with a soulmate, that is what is going to happen.
3. Your gifts will come out
Having them in your life will activate hidden gifts and talents. Maybe they support you in following your dreams. Or they make you believe you are actually good enough to bring out your creativity. Or pursue that writing career.
One of my soulmates always praised me for being so entrepreneurial, a side of me that I absolutely did not see in myself. But his view of me made me believe in that too, and now I make enough money with my business to support myself full-time.
4. Your consciousness expands
If you never believed in anything supernatural or magical, a soulmate will make you question all your beliefs. The connection you feel with them is beyond explanation.
You will have moments of pure Oneness with them, where everything in the world falls away, and it’s just you two. The Earth will feel more welcoming in general, and you will start seeing beyond the veil.
A true soulmate wakes you up and takes the ordinary out of everyday life. Because life is not ordinary … it’s pure magic.
5. Challenges that push you to grow
Not all soulmate connections are easy. Some shake you at the core and make your whole foundation crumble. If that happens, that was exactly the purpose.
They came to bring you back to yourself. They disrupt your comfort zone and make you grow immensely. Don’t think you can escape this; they will keep coming back until you finally learn the lesson.
A soulmate signed a contract with you before your birth. They enter into your life to make you evolve, and sometimes this comes with very hard lessons. This is not to punish you, but to help you come home to yourself.
6. A calling toward a shared purpose
When you have a soulmate in your life, you most likely get pushed into a shared mission. Maybe it’s to heal one another, or to be of service to others.
A soulmate will make you see that we are all One, and the desire to help your community will get activated. We are not on this Earth to just live our own lives. We are here to expand the collective consciousness.
Soulmates will help you with that mission.
7. Time starts to bend
Moments spent with a true soulmate are timeless. When you are together, it sometimes feels like time does not exist. It becomes spacious and light, as if you can even travel to other Universes.
Time is only a given on our planet and is a concept of the human mind. When you are with a soulmate, you start feeling those moments of timeless presence. This is how it is when two souls are truly together, and not only their bodies.
8. Energetic communication
When a soulmate has entered your life, you will feel their energy even if they are not around. For example, you might feel their sadness and their happiness at any random moment.
At first, this is very hard to recognize. You might think it comes from inside of you, and in a certain way it does. But when your mood suddenly changes out of nowhere, it could be their energy you are feeling.
According to quantum physics, atoms that have a connection with each other can be affected by one another even when apart. There are even scientific researches now that molecules that have been completely separated still act in the same way as the other one does.
This just shows our energetic resonance goes way beyond our initial understanding, and that energy is real.
9. They bring you into inner union
While the idea of a soulmate might sound romantic, it’s often not. They come into your life to bring you into inner union. Jung calls this individuation: when you embody all your repressed energies in a balanced way.
This means your higher Self vs. your ego, your masculine vs. your feminine, the different archetypes, and your shadow and your light.
A soulmate might feel like they complete you in all of these aspects, but a real soulmate makes you feel whole within yourself. You don’t need them to feel that way.
What is the purpose of soulmates?
Not all soulmates come to stay forever, but that doesn’t make them less valuable. Some people stay with us for exactly the right amount of time we need to find ourselves.
I know how hard this is to accept. I’ve met two soulmates in my life, and they were both incredibly hard to let go of. There might always be a sort of longing to them, because this life is not your first rodeo with them. Maybe in the next life, you have both evolved enough for a forever partnership.
I believe that some soulmates make you grow so much that the next one you will meet will finally stay. After all, you can’t have a fully conscious relationship if you are not whole in yourself.
Sometimes, you are still acting from your past traumas, so a soulmate will show up to help you overcome that. But they might not last forever.
How to know if your soulmate is meant to stay?
I think the Universe guides us to meet people, but also guides us to let go. You will start seeing cracks in the relationship. Your body will show signs. Things stop aligning. You stop growing.
Soulmates are powerful catalysts, but you have to do the work to make yourself grow. One way to do this is with shadow work, which I published a guided journal about.
After the inner work, you will start sending out a frequency that is healthy and conscious, so you will also attract that in your life. The right people will always come into your life at the right time.
Believe that what is meant for you will show up. Simply because they are also ready for you.
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"A soulmate might feel like they complete you in all of these aspects, but a real soulmate makes you feel whole within yourself. You don’t need them to feel that way."
This is exactly where the ocean meets the sun for me.
I don’t believe there is one single soulmate assigned to each person. I believe we encounter people who meet us at different points in our evolution, and the work we do within ourselves, especially the shadow work...prepares us for the connections we are meant to experience.
Some connections are meant to grow with us. Some are meant to challenge us. Some are meant to reveal parts of ourselves we hadn't yet confronted. And some are simply meant to complete a particular chapter.
Whatever is meant to evolve will evolve. And when that cycle ends, we don't necessarily start over from scratch. We carry what we learned, recycle the shadow work of that encounter, integrate it into who we've become, and bring that growth into the next connection.
Maybe that's the real cycle of life: meet, evolve, learn, release, integrate, and love again, not necessarily the same way, but more consciously.
Okay. Now I'm angry. You so nailed this. We are apart for now. But, yes there is a but, it is not finished. We both know but the obstacles grow. Hey, thanks for the hope.